Fighting the pain

[Gail08]

The fight against the pain is so hard at times.    Sometimes I get so tired I just feel like giving up the fight and let the pain take over.  I am finding this is happening more and more often and it really scares me.  I know there must be others of you who have this same problem.  Can someone tell me how they keep themselves from giving up the fight against the pain? I know I need to keep fighting but it is getting so VERY hard.

[Luvinmike]

Dear Gail;
Thinking of you. I know for me- I don't fight it, when it hits I do anything I can such as fresh air, looking into the sky, walking and waiting for the despair to ease up even just a little. I have gathered some ideas from others also- A man who lost everything in an accident told me he works out with weights every day to feel empowered. I have heard others talk about trying a new thing, building up your confidence in little ways, I know helping someone else can feel useful. I like to read poetry and look for a beautiful story or movie- about the good in people. You are important and you matter. Reminding yourself of that. Kind thoughts sent your way.
Terri

[browneyedgirl]

Gail ~ I echo what Terri has said.  

(((((Gail)))))

[Terry]

I don't fight it Gail. I deal with every memory as they come to me and the intensity of the awful and at times, unbearable pain, subsides after awhile.

I have lived a 'lifetime' waiting for those 'awhile's'

It really hasn't been that long since Jolene died. It takes a long time, Gail to learn to walk 'with' the pain and know that it is a part of loving and losing.

The early stages of grief are just indescribable as I look back and try to remember. And at times it actually frightens me.

But, trust me Gail. There will come a time when you will be able to breathe AND feel the pain AND think of Jolene with warm, tender memories without falling apart. But, it takes time. Be patient with yourself. Be kind to yourself.

You have my love,
Terry