Boyfriend of 4 yrs

[lori4984]

My relationship with my boyfriend has been great... we have never had an argument however we have had many discussions... heres my dilemia. We both want to get married, he lives with his mom, i live with my daughter. He always says that he cant wait to marry me after i get out of school. See im back in college, getting my nursing degree. The thing is...if he loves me so much like he says he does, and he says he wants to speend the rest of his life with me and grow old together, why wont he marry me now? Any one have any ideas? do you think im wasting my time? am i not good enough for him? i need some help in trying to figure this out... any voices on your opinions will be appreciated

[Luvinmike]

Dear Lori;
How amazing to get through nursing school- it is a challenge! I hope you and your family are well. Welcome to this site. I hope you consider turning around your question of,"Am I good enough," and instead say,"Is he good enough?"
He sounds reasonable and wise in my opinion, as changing things may disrupt your education, so if he is employed, respectful and ambitious to care for you and have a family maybe he is just practical. Good luck, take good care of you.

[laurenE]

I couldnt agree more with Luvinmike.     School is such a challenge and lots of work.   Im not saying you cant do both,  but  I think its wise to wait until you can focus completely on your new marriage instead of having to try to balance both school and marriage at the same time.    You have forever with your husband.  School is only temporary and will be done before you know it. Then you can start your new life as a nurse and as a bride!

I think your guy is wise and trying to take good care of you both emotionally and financially.

[lori4984]

Thank you for your replies. Yes he is very wise, employed and very respectful. He has to be in his profession. An officer for 23 yrs. I used to turn to my mom for these kind of things, but she's been gone for 2 yrs now. How i miss her so... she was my backbone and helped me thru it all. My family.... 5 brothers, 1 sister and my father... not very supportive, Im the only one they dont communicate with, i have no clue as to why, ive called, left messages for all of them, with no reply. So as you can see with my boyfriend i dont want to waste my time. He is all i have and i needed to know what everyone else thought... Thanks again for your replies