Tearing me up inside

[William45]

I need to help. This situation is eating me up in side. I am involved with a female who is 31 years old. I have know her for two years but have been seeing her for 6 months. She does have a child who is 10 years old. It is the age old question of love and trust. This person has been or has had tree different men in her life. She was married at a young and became pregnant with another man child. She got a divorce from the first husband. The man who is the father of her child left her soon after. She met another man who she had a relationship with for 6 years. They are now seperated. He married another woman but something happened and he came to her, according to her they are not living together now.

I have been seeing her for the last five months. In a strange way we have formed a relationship, but I cannot seem to trust her. I found out the above information by researching on the web. When we first started seeing each other. I told her I was not a person to play games with ones emotions. If she want a serious  relationship then by all means let us proceed. I am begining to have seconds thoughsts about her honesty. It has been 5 months and she has not introduced me to her son or let me come over to her house. She tell me that she is afraid that her ex-boyfriend will see us and that she is not ready for me to meet her son. She does not want anyone else to know that we are seeing each other. I am suspicious of her behavior and I  need to know if I should continue in this relationship or move on with my life. 

[georgiapeaches]

Dear william,
I think you might want to listen to your gut. I could understand her not wanting to introduce you to her son to soon, but her reasoning is all off. I would try to sit down with her and have a long talk and ask her straight out what she wants and tell her what you want. Hope this helped.

[sevenofwands]

Hello William:

Indeed, as Georgia says: listen to your gut.  It is sending you the right warning.  I would be very suspicious too.  This person sounds unstable, and has had these erratic episodes in her life.  Also, she appears to have no concept of the word boundaries as applicable to herself. 
You were straight up with her, but she is not being honest with you.  Indeed her mindset may be such that she is unable to live except in this chaotic way in which she seems to be used to living.

There are other women out there, William.  Don't set yourself up to get hurt.

All the best
Seven