Girlfriend of 10 months has ended things to find herself?

[mathias]

I understand the idea but feel unsure of how to move on.

I am feeling raw pain right now for losing a partner that was brining me a lot of hapiness and really made me feel interested emotionally and physically, never had I really felt this before.

She has two children (we are both 25) they are 7 and 3.

Recently I had expressed frustration that we struggle to communicate when the little things come up. We have both been somewhat pig headed with each other and it came to a head very recently when i stormed out of the house. Of course this made her feel incredibly upset as she had asked me previously not to do it. She considers it to be a bit of a cowards way out. She has said that she doesn't know how to trust me with having kids if this is how I react.

I have had fears over the influence her ex has on her life. I needed her to tell me that she felt nothing for him anymore. She was very emphatic about this but resents my asking quite a lot. I wanted to get it out in the open so I could feel secure in having kids with her myself. We agreed we wanted to and had begun to discuss when and how.

She says she feels tired, that the last 10 months has made her realise she needs to learn how to cope by herself and that the stress we are causing each other is too much. She says she loves me and misses me but is determined to have time apart. She has told me that she hopes we can remain in touch but not to wait for each other.

How can I find closure on a relationship that feels like it was meant to be? When we do talk in the future, how can I express what feelings I have for her (whatever they may be after that time), without causing her guilt or pain?

[William45]

It seems that communication goes both ways. Storming out was not the right thing to do.
No matter how mad you are if you love her and it seems that you do that it was the wrong thing to do. By you storming out it gave her the excuse or upper hand to end the relationship.
Her ex still plays a big part in her life. It is hard to say that she does not feel anything for him.
She will not tell you. It is easy for her to say that he does not. Being secure in a relationship is not 100% sure. Having trust in someone that you want to spend your life with leaves more questions than answers. I am only guessing that she is taking the coward ways out by saying that she needs space or is under stress. Everyone is under stress in thier lives. If she loves you why would she say we can remain in touch but not to wait on each other. That  part I don't understand myself. 

I will be honest with you it is hard to find closure in a relationship like this. May be she will regrett what she has done in the coming months and come back of her own accord. In the mean time try and get yourself together. Look out for yourself now. I hope this helps you.