looking after yourself/ daughter has moved abroad(old post)

[scampi]

.Hi - I posted a subject on this site some time ago(see older post under Daughter moving abroad)- but decided to start a new but related post -
.My daughter got married in Aug in Oz - and i was thrilled at the number of family and friends that made the trip.
My son after loosing his job, decided to get a year long working visa and also stay there  after the wedding.

After waiting for around a year, i have finally had 3 appointments with a counsellor (3 more left) who has told me it is fine to be sad- but not to dwell on it

However, my husband and i are finding it very difficult at this time of year (Christmas) he had said to many people that 'christmas is banned this year'.  We have made the decision not to put up any decorations apart from cards as feel that it will prolong the feeling of missing my son and daughter - after all as my counsellor said - Christmas is only one day- so do not want to prolong christmas to be about 3 weeks long.

We have been invited to good friends for christmas dinner with their family (who we know v well) so know we will have a good time.   I am making the starter, but it has always given me enormous pleasure to plan/buy/prepare food and
.table for dinner so i will really miss it this year.
A friend recently introduced me to her reflexologist - and i had my first treatment 2 days ago - i can honestly say- it really did have a positive effect on my feeling - definately i felt a bit happier, but i will need more definately as i can feel              a dip in my mood
I know this will not solve probnlems, but do think that it will work hand in hand with the counsellor and my antidepressants and hope ultimately i can feel a lot better - give it a try  - i am sure you won't regret it. I was sceptical but trusted the friend who recommended it to my -she has been suffering from depression also.

GIVE IT A TRY - YOU WON'T REGRET IT

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[sevenofwands]

Hello Scampi:

Yes, I remember your posts.  Glad to hear you are doing these things for yourself, all positive things.   You mention your counsellor.  Would you perhaps like to have further sessions as six do not seem very many?

How is your daughter?  I expect she is happy with her new married life and in general with her life in Australia.  And your son too is surely finding his time there interesting.   It is important that they are well and happy, and making their way in life.

I am sorry you are feeling sad at this time of the year and being with your friends will ensure you feel comforted and not so alone.  Christmas is a poignant time indeed, and I do find it so. 

All the best
Seven