Missing my special Bond with my Daughter

[squirty]

Me and my dauhger used to have special bond when my daughter was growing up. Now it seems like we dont have that special bond anymore. Where/What went wrong here? I miss her and I want her back.

[Luvinmike]

Hi Squirty, I am sorry to hear this distance has grown between you and your daughter. My daughter is nineteen and we have some very distant times, I miss our life when the kids were young and things seemed simple. Tell us more- how old, what has gone on? Welcome to this site. I hope things improve soon. Terri

[sevenofwands]

Hello Squirty:

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
I don't think anything went "wrong".  As girls grow up they seek their independence, and it is a process. 

Maybe this would help:

Common Thread: Mothers and Daughters: The Bond We Never Outgrow
by Martha Manning, Rosie O'Donnell

Review:

"No relationship is more fulfilling, infuriating, emotional, and problematic than that of mother and daughter. Now, in a work filled with truth, surprises, and humor, renowned psychologist and author Martha Manning offers mothers and daughters of all ages a new way to understand each other. Challenging the accepted premise that this powerful bond must be severed for emotional growth, Manning shows us why this precious attachment is never outgrown, how, if it is damaged, it can be healed, and what will enrich this lifelong commitment while fostering essential independence. The key is empathy, and Manning provides potent tools to help us build stronger ties and celebrate the crazy twists, joys, and secrets inherent in this most glorious of life connections.

Combining personal experiences and scrupulous research, The Common Thread helps each of us develop a mutually empowering relationship — and laugh, too — as we more deeply connect with and appreciate the mother or daughter we love."......

Seven

[squirty]

Her mother and I split up when my daughter just turned 2. My daughter and I always had that special bond. Now she's 17 years old. She doesnt talk to me like she used to. I tried to get her to open up and talk to me about whatever on her mind and she wont do that. She's my world. She's what is keeping me going. I'm lost about is happening now.

[Luvinmike]

Hi squirty- Are you seeing other behavioral changes? New people in her life etc. Anything else different. Also, have you asked your daughter, just like your note here? Maybe she will tell you something that is behind these distant feelings. Sorry you are hurting... Sincerely, Terri

[sevenofwands]

Hello Squirty:

So sorry that I did not realise you are her father, not her mother.  It wasn't clear from your first post.

I think it is just typical teenage behaviour.  Adolescence is a difficult passage at best, stuck there between late childhood and early adulthood.  A time of hormonal changes, of discovery, of finding oneself. 
Does she live with you? 
I am sure she loves you but you may need to be patient for a while.  Things will settle down.

All the best
Seven

[pondering]

I understand your feelings and I m sorry for your daughter which far from you. Me and my daughter have also good bond. You are not wrong but when kids are growing its definitely change.