Scattering ahes

[Gail08]

I am preparing to scatter my sister's ashes.  I have to be the one to do it because she requested that I be the one to do it.  When she asked me if I would do it I said "Sure" because if that is what she wanted then I wanted to do it for her.  But now that the time is nearing I can see it is going to be so much harder than I had expected for two reasons:

1. It is going to feel like I am having to let her go all over again.

2. I am scared because I don't know how it is going to affect me.

Can anyone who has scatttered their sibling's ashes give me some idea of what it is like?  I know it would be different for different people but I thought maybe if I knew what it was like for some it would help me to get an idea of what to expect.

[browneyedgirl]

Hi Gail ~

I can tell you that for me, it was a sense of closure....not that I miss Tony any less, but like he was free and where he wanted to be.  Same feeling that came to me when we commited some of his ashes to the Chruch.  I felt like he was finally (we waited about 8 months) at peace. 

How did it effect me?  Was I sad?  Yes, of course.  You also may need to be prepared for the feeling of "holding" her in your hand, when you touch the ashes, for me, that was the hardest part.

Thinking of you and wishing you some peace.