scatterbrained

[addiesmom]

  It has almost been a year since my daughter passed away and I still feel very unfocused and scatterbrained. does anyone else feel this way? somehow when I thought of the year mark I thought somehow I would feel more healed. although it is not the forfront of my thoughts. I still feel so broken hearted. I cry often and I miss her so deeply. Of course the shock has faded. The cards have stopped coming and people have stopped calling.  I wish there wasnt a so many phases to grief! I know I will never stop hurting and that I have to find who I am now. This is so hard!

[charlesafather]

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 It has been 1 and 1/2 years for us, I still find myself dreaming of the what if's. I myself still cry every day, I can stop the tears but my mind screams.

              sending you my prayers and strength,
                                 charlesafather

[Brenda Taylors Mom]

Addy's mom , Yes it's very normal to still feel this way. After 4 years I still am, have to make notes over and over can't remember peoples names. And I too have cried every day for my son Taylor. I don't think the hurting every stops. Love, Brenda Some tell me it gets softer, but it hasnt' for me, maybe someday...

[Judy, Dougie's Mom]

Oh honey, you are not scatterbrained, you are a grieving mom.  Everything has changed, just everything.  I remember saying to another gal that I know that lost her son too that I couldn't put my thoughts together and she said "that's because you have had your mind blown".......I never really understood that phrase until that moment.

Grief is continuous hard work, remember those deep breaths and hold on tight.

Sending strength to you for your journey.

Love
Judy

"MAKANA LIVES"
forever in my heart

[Paula Bruckner]

I believe without a shred of doubt that your focus and attention has dramatically changed. I attribute it to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

[MelissaCharliesMom]

Scatterbrained...I think is a fairly good term. It will be 5 years in June, I am still lost at times, still have days when all I want to do is crawl into bed and stay there. We do the best we can, it is all we can do. Know youre not alone. Sending strength and peace.

[Debh]

In May it will be 13 years since Chad died, every year I feel the sadness and hurt of his death. I find weeks prior to his death I am scatterbrained, lost, sad, etc,. I go through our last days together and our last hug and kiss goodnight.  I will tell my hubby things don't seem right and he replies, "its the time of year".  When his death date comes this all leaves and I am back to celebrating his life and holding onto the good memories and love that keep us connected. In fact I imagine Chad would be saying you have always been scattered brained mom

This is forever is what I believe, and should be, our loss of a child leaves us with that emptiness in our hearts forever, scatterbrained is understandable to mom, and with this memory I smile.

Love Deb

[Jeanneb]

I can understand how disturbing this can be but I call it grief brain.  Just remember there is no magic number... It will be 6 years in July that Philip has been gone.  I can say that I do feel healing has started... more good days than bad and the brain is starting to function a little again.

There is just no way around grief but learning how to walk with it and it is a lot of work.

Take it one minute, one breath at a time.

Jeanne
Philip's mom
Bruce's sister