FIRST TIME ON THIS BOARD(MY DAD DIED)

[MARTHA(CANDI'S AUNT)]

i usually post on the childloss board because my niece(CANDI-23) was killed MAY 13,2005...
my dad(SYLVESTER) died FEB.21,2010. he hadn't been sick. he did have throat cancer in aug.2005. but they did radiation & got all of it. & he's been cancer free.
he never smoked. he did chew tobacco.  after his radiation treatments it killed one of his saliva glands & his throat got dry real easy & he got choked easy. he had a breathing machine for when he felt like he couldn't breathe. he was 64 yrs. old. he worked everyday he had radiation treatments back in 2005 & took the treatments on his lunch hour.. he worked all his life. he worked for JOHNS-MANVILLE  for over 20 something yrs. until they went out of business where we're from.. he was working at sherman housing authorit in maintinence at his time of death. he was the best dad in the world. him & my mom have been married for 47 yrs.  he had a stress test done one week before he died & it came back nothing wrong with his heart.. he only took high blood pressure medicine.. he could fix anything.. the day he died my mom went out to his garage to tell him something . he had been changing the breaks on a truck... that's when she found him dead. the driver side door was open & his breathing machine was in the driver's seat & it looked like he had been trying to hook it up..
my mom isn't in good health. she had a massive heart attack 18 mo. ago & they saved her. back in jan. she had to have another stint put in her heart. she said our dad was laying beside the truck peaceful. layed straight out with his arms wide open..  she was able to call 911. then she called my sister(lisa-46(candi's mom) & then she called our brother(jimmey-38). my line was busy. someone was on the internet. so my sister(lisa called my husbands sister(della) & she came to my house & told me. my name is martha-42.  when the ambulance got to their house they had to take our mom to the hospital.  they let her come home that night. me & my sister stayed the night with her. please pray for all of us. mom hasn't been by herself yet. she's having a real hard time.we all are. i want my daddy back...
martha
 

[flamingofred]

I am so sorry for your loss.  It sounds like your dad passed away doing what he enjoyed and we should all wish for that kind of death.

Just take one day at a time, feel what you need to feel.


Kym aka Flamingo Fred

[laurenE]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your father.  Sometimes the deaths just rekindle the feelings from previous deaths and our struggle with grief, dont they?  Whatever helped you before in your grief,  do it that much more this time.   Loosing a parent is hard.  I've lost both of mine by the age of 35. 

Thanks for sharing your story with us.  So sorry .

lauren

[Luvinmike]

Dear Martha;
I am sorry from the bottom of my heart for the recent loss of your Dad and the sad loss of your precious niece Candi. I hope you are doing okay today. I have been including your family in my prayers, may you always feel the care of others here on this site, because you are deeply cared for here. I hope you will write again and let us know how you and your family are doing as the hours and days unfold. Grief and loss can be so disorienting and confusing, at first and even after such a long time. Praying for your continued strength Martha.
Terri

[Mir]

My heart goes out to you.... I too have lost a person very close to me recently (my mum), so know exactly what you are going through.  The bond between a parent and a child is so great that when one goes the emptiness left is great.

One of my friends suggested, buying a diary and writing every great moment that I had together...not sure if it will help you but maybe it is something you may want to try....

x
   

[Terry]

((((( Martha )))))

Just sending hugs, love and so much understanding. As you know, my Dad is all I have left and has lived with me many years with AD. And, please know that you and your Mom, all of you continue to be in my prayers for the strength to endure.

It seems with every good-bye and the fact that we're all getting older, it's so difficult to even comprehend anymore loss. But, we're constantly faced with it.

I know, too the memories of your sweet and precious Candi have all resurfaced and the work of grief must begin again. I'm so sorry.

You have my love,
Terry