I'm looking for a little perspective

[Annie1973]

I usually post in the child loss thread, my son died in June of last year from a fall resulting in a broken neck, he was 34 years old and my only child.
I didn't want to take a chance on hurting anyones feelings by asking this question in my usual space, but it's something that has been gnawing at me.
From time to time there are people that post for the first time and they are agitated, frantic, desperate. They have lost a loved one, they are suicidal, they have questions that we, having suffered a loss, can relate to. We put our hearts and souls into our replies, and then never hear from them again.
I worry about them. Can anyone suggest something for me to do so I don't feel like I have talked to no one?
Thanks

Annie (Dans mom)

[sevenofwands]

Hello Annie:

First of all let me say I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your only son.  Your sorrow and grief must be so intense. 

As to your question, well, I have sometimes wondered the same.  People post, then disappear.  In all likelihood, in the midst of their grief, they are trawling the net for sites such as this in the hope of finding what they are looking for.  Maybe they find another website, maybe they are looking for different responses or answers to the ones given on here, or maybe they find support in 3D, and simply find that is sufficient.  Who knows.

All the best
Seven

[georgiapeaches]

Hi Annie,
How r u?
I  asked that same question awhile ago, I think they sometimes sit back and just read, because they are scared or shy or whatever, they dont want to jion in, if you look at the numbers how many times post are read, the numbers are pretty high, higher than the number of people on sometimes, so I think there still on, just sitting on the sidelines and they will post when there ready. Hope your doing ok.

georgia.

[Luvinmike]

Those are great answers to your question about people who post and you hope for the best... I pray for everyone who visits this site, if they come here one time, if they just read, or they have been here a long time- I just pray for them. Then let it go. Worrying can make you sick so don't worry about others, they will be okay. Your son is handsome in the picture and I'm sure he would want you to feel some peace Annie. We are all here to listen. Terri

[I just want to die]

Hi Annie,

My name is Kelly and I am new to the site and a new posting.  Mine is the one that says, I lost my baby, my brother and Mother in 4 days."  This may shed some light for you - to me the site is difficult to use.  I dont understand how to see the replies, example,  it says I have "x" amount of replies but then I am only able to see the one that was done today.   I thought the same thing, these people must think I am rude and only felt bad enough that day to post something, its not the case I, (they) have probably not seen the replies.     Like right now its says I have 1 new message, I read it and replied to it.  Now it says there is a new messge, I go to it and it is the same one from before, I am confused. 

Anyway, your loss is tragic and I am so sorry.  Weird how the world leaves mom's without children and children without mom's - but we seem to find each other.  Bless your heart and I hope I have given you some perspective - believe me your replies are worth their weight in gold. 

If you have any advice on how to use this I would love it.

Love Kelly


(Now lets hope I did this right and it gets to you!)

[laurenE]

kelly,

A personal message is found   at the top of your page,   right hand side,  it should  say "hey I just want to die"  you have 2 messages.".     if you click on the word  "2 messages"  it will open your private messages.    these are messages that only you can read. 

a post can be opened by going to whatever board you want to go to (child loss,  grief not related to death,  main, etc).   

click on that board and names of posts will be there.

 Click on the one you want to read, such as yours "I lost my baby, my brother, and mother...." 

now.   use your mouse to scroll down to the bottem of the page.  There should be a roller ball on  the top of your mouse.  Roll that down til it stops.   You should see lots of posts as you move down the page.
another way to do it is...  at the far right side of your computer screen,  you see a blue bar.  click your mouse on it and move it down.   the posts should roll by as you go down. 

let me know if this helps.