Confused about this space issue...

[Swagger79]

So I've been dating this woman for about 5 months, and in those 5 months we've done a lot together. We've gone to New York for New Years, we've spent time with her family and friends, vice-versa. She's 37 and she's not been in a serious relationship since her late 20's, and in a way she still acts like she's in her 20's as far as this relationship is concerned. This past week she's been a little different towards me,  before she was texting me while I was at work, dropping me phone calls, and just was excited to hear or be around me. However this week wasn't like that at all, and I could tell. We don't see each other during the week, but we make an effort to talk to each other oncea day usually right before going to sleep. I noticed when I was talking to her last night, she wasn't all there, preoccupied, not really into the conversation.

We hung up kind of bleh, and then I sent her a text message saying that I felt she was patronizing me and if she didn't want to talk then she needed to let me know. I also mentioned that if she needed some space to tell me, and we could talk about it.

I didn't hear anything last night, but I did get a text from her this morning that said that she was sorry if she came off patronizing, and that we would talk later. I responded with an ok, and then asked if she needed space.

She replied... "Yes. I do need space, but it's not a bad thing."

And so I responded with... "Well it's not a good thing, and we shouldn't let this sit all day."

And then she came back with... "I can't talk right now, please respect that I'm at work."

Now when a girl says that they need space it's usually the kiss of death, and it's pretty much over. I mean that's what I take from it... What does everyone else think about it?

I know not to call her, I haven't contacted her and I will not contact her until she gets ahold of me. We had a ton of plans this weekend, but I'm assuming that they have been thrown out the window. I might be overreacting, but like I said... space is usually the kiss of death.

Should I be preparing myself?

Thanks...

- Swagger.

[georgiapeaches]

hi Swagger,
Maybe you shouldnt jump to conclusions, I really dont know, I never said I needed space to anyone. maybe your plans for the weekend are still on , she probably just wants a day or two to be by herself. just wait it out and see what she says, maybe it wont be so bad. Sorry thats all I can tell you, hope it helped.

Georgia.

[laurenE]

Everyone has their own definition of "space".  Ask her what this means for her before you make assumptions b/c this could get ya in hot water.    I need my space all the time,  but for me that usually means a couple of hrs of alone time or even a weekend get away with a female friend  just to get away from winter weather, and the routines of life.

I would not assume that plans are cancelled this weekend unless she told you that they were.   Please clarify with her what the plans are for this weekend.