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[angeldust63]

Hi My name is Kay and I am new here. My daughter died on December 11, 2008. unexpectedly. My husband and I and my grandson's girlfriend and a couple other friends  were sitting outside talking and my daughter came outside and sit down in a chair. We live in Tampa Florida. She didn't  say a word and  we looked over and her and we thought she was sleeping and we joked about it but when we tried to get her up to go to bed she didn't respond  and I realized that something was wrong and I called 911 and they came but it was to late. I feel if I had realized right away that something was wrong maybe I could have saved her.  My daughter's name was Mary and she was 45

[Karen Paul]

Oh Kay - I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter Mary! I'm glad you have found this forum, though sad that you have a reason to be here. I hope you will continue and post on the Child Loss board where there are many parents who are on this road of grief also. I hope you will find this a safe place to vent, cry, share your grief and your precious daughter.

I'm not a parent myself, but lost my nephew Christopher at the age of 16, 5 yrs ago, to a hit and run drunk driver. Chris is my brother's only child, my parents' only grandchild since I have none of my own (infertility). He is missed beyond words and the beautiful people on this site have helped me on my grief journey in dealing with my own feelings and better understanding how my nephew's parents (my brother and his ex-wife) are feeling.

Please know that you are welcome and you are not alone..

luv and hugs, Karen
proud aunt of Christopher
12.1.86-11.12.03

[Luvinmike]

Dear Kay, my heart goes out to you in courage and strength. Mary will be in my prayers. Sincerely, Terri ( Main board- I lost my husband age 44 suddenly).

[Jeanneb]

Kay,

I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter, Mary.  I lost my youngest son, Philip at the age of 17... it has been a little over 5 years now.

I hope as you are able you will come back and post.  I encourage you to post on the child loss board.  There are many parents, aunts, etc. that walk this journey with you and know how you feel.

Again, I am deeply sorry for you loss.

Jeanne
Philip's mom forever
Bruce's sister

[sj1211]

Hello Kay and welcome. I am so sorry about Mary. I am new here too, my youngest child, my son Wesley died in a car accident on November 14th (2008). I know that you will find the comfort, support and compassion that you are needing right here with everyone who is, but not quite in your shoes. Each loss is so individual, and each individual copes differently. This site is where I've found that people understand and REALLY care and want to assist you. Hoping that today will bring more peaceful waves than tidal waves. Your new friend
Sandy

[Judy, Dougie's Mom]

Kay

I am so so sorry for your loss.

I am glad you found us, but so very sorry you had a reason to....there is strength and understanding here. Sadly, we do understand.

You are so new to the journey, be very gentle with yourself.

Share more when you are able.

One moment at a time, deep breaths and baby steps.

Sending strength

Judy

"MAKANA LIVES"
forever in my heart

[georgiapeaches]

Dear Kay, So sorry to hear about your daughter. My heart goes out to you. My husband was 44 when he passed in April of this year and it was very unexpected also. My prayers are with you.

Georgia.

[Rainman]

Dear Kay,

I am so sorry for your loss.  My heart goes out to you.  I lost my wife 12 days ago.  Just remember that you are NOT alone.  We are all here for you and, as you know, we can all commiserate with you and your grief.  We have all gone, or or going through, exactly what you are experiencing.

Please keep coming back to this family of friends, we are here for you.

Ray

[nancy/Patricks mom]

kay,

i am so sorrry for your loss i lost my 20 year old son dec.8 2007 i had talked to him 15 mins earlier and went down stairs he had had a sezior i wondered if i went sooner if it would have helped but i don't think nothing we could have done would have changed anything

[tsurandy]

Hi Kay, I am sorry for your loss.  I lost my Mama Sept 17th, 2008.  When we experience loss through death, we are forever changed.  The support you will find in this forum is amazing.  We are here for you Kay and you are in my prayers and thoughts!  God Bless You.

[the little Brother]

I am so sorry for your loss. Though it is dificult, you can not place blame on yourself or anyone else. No one knows why people pass or when it is suppose to happen. Try to remember the good times now. I have found that putting a picture of my brother (whome I lost to a long battle with heart desiese) in a place where I can see him has helped. I put it in my car that way when I am alone I can talk to him and I feel a little closer. Again don't place blame on yourself...


Take care
The little Brother.