My fiance left me and she says she still loves me and wants time to herself.

[tagget]

Hey I’m 20 been out with this girl for 6 long years been engaged for 2 years been through thick and thin the last 2 years we have been having a few rows here and there and I felt depressed last 3 months we got worse so I tried making her happy by setting up her with a game I play called world of war craft she played that with me for a month then the last 2 months her actions seemed a bit weird I key logged my laptop got her msn details and other stuff checked her msn and I found out she was cheating on me with some guy from Denmark I found love letters from him to her intimate texts ect ect I confronted her with it she went mental she thought she wouldn’t of got found out so I dumped her for a week and she realised what she had done wrong what she had lost and came back to me grovelling as I’m so kind hearted I got her back in my life but I was completely paranoid all the time for a week and accusing her for still talking to him on the internet because she set up a Skype account which I found so they could talk well this last week just before Xmas she broke up with me on the grounds of she still loves and cares for me but she’s had enough and wants time to herself to think.

I really don’t know what to do I love her so much I’m hoping after a 2 week separation she will come back to me relies what she has lost and we can sort it out allot of people are telling me to move on but I really can’t being with someone u love for 6 long years it’s not easy just to say goodbye........ I keep ringing her and texting her telling her how much I love her and I think it’s making it worse cause she gets angry with me I’m not sure if it’s to do with she has had enough and wants to be alone for a while to think or if she’s had enough and can’t be bothered

[Linds]

Well, I don't really know you or her, but 20 is pretty young to make such a serious commitment.... She doesnt sound serious and she needs her space and so do you. Sometimes you loose a good to make way for a better thing. I was in a similar situation, except I was 23 and he was cheating on me. He kept coming back and breaking my heart over and over again. i tried to trust him, but he didnt even care. I finally said enough. Six months later I met my husband and he was the ONE. i am still friends with Ben (the ex) and we are good people, just not good for each other. We taught each other about love, respect and what we will and will not tolerate. When Ben and I broke up, i thought my world was over, how could I go on? But I did. day by day. While it seemed like the most horrible thing in the world, looking back it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

good luck with everything... I hoped that helped.

[KITA]

taggett:

I can feel your pain, I am going through something similiar myself.  LaurenE posted excellent advice to me in my thread....that is the healing starts once you sever communication.  It is true, the best way to beat this is to just walk away right now.  I know that sounds harsh, but over the longhaul it will pay off for you. 

You are so young now, there will be plenty of opportunities out there for you.  A trite expression was given to me at your age....girls are just like buses, there is always one going and one coming, and they are 5 minutes apart.

Good Luck to you.

[sevenofwands]

You are very young, Taggett.  I just smile at the thought of being so young, it is so wonderful! 

I have to agree with what Linds has to say to you.  When you look back, you will see that this person is not what you needed, at all.
Hard as it is, in this case "no contact" is the only road out.  It will be worth it.

Seven

[sharpie22]

The only way that this girl is going to realize that you are the man she wants is if you let her realize it herself. Leave her alone, go out with your boys, and have a general good time. As my girlfriend told me when we broke up, "I need to find myself before I can be with anyone, so treat this as an excuse to go out there and kiss other girls." You need to show her that you are capable of moving on, and eventually she will realize what she was missing if it is meant to be. Good luck bro, i know its tough but just try to have a good time without her. And no contact is probably your best idea also, she is going to be wondering why you haven't called her and eventually get fed up with it in the end if she really cares about you and wants to be with you. Let her come to you, it is the only way.


Will