I miss my mom, too!

[sissylewis]

My mom died of congestive heart failure on November 14, 2008.

Today, my husband and I passed a sign that said the local, newly-renovated theater is playing "White Christmas" next week.  Immediately, I thought, "Mom would like to see that."  That is when it really hit me - how much I miss and will continue to miss my mom.

My sister put it just right one day.  She was watching leaves fall from the trees and she realized that nothing is the same.  The leaves aren't changing color like they used to, the leaves aren't falling the same, the Christmas decorations aren't as cheerful...

I miss my mom and I want her back.

[georgiapeaches]

Hi sissylewis, I'm so sorry for your loss. I also lost my mom this year in Nov. Nothing will seem the same. Somebody told me its called a new normal. I know you dont want a new normal, its something new to get used to, and sometimes it doesnt get easier either. The holidays make it just that harder, but there are great people on theis site and they are great support, they have been here for me, and beleive me I have been through alot. I'm always here if you need an ear, anytime.

Georgia.

[Karen Paul]

sissylewis

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My nephew Chris died Nov. 12, 2003 after being struck by a hit and run drunk driver while riding his bicycle home from a friend's house. Chris was 16 years old. I remember that first year we were just in shock, going through the motions of Thanksgiving, Chris' 17th bday Dec. 1st, and Christmas. Please be easy on yourself, of course nothing is the same - how could it be when your mom isn't here to share it with.

I remember the first couple of years I just could not listen to holiday music or even go near any stores or do cards or decorate or anything.. it was like I was immobilized.. and it was like an afront that everyone was so cheery - after all my nephew was dead! It has gotten "softer" over time.. but we have changed some traditions and added others (like a candle ceremony) to remember Chris in our holiday and include him in our gatherings..

I hope you will find much support and understanding here.. and know that you are in many hearts this holiday season.. the first without your sweet mom..

luv and hugs, Karen
Chris' aunt

[tsurandy]

I list my Mama in Sept of this year.  Nothing is or ever will be the same.  I am sorry for your loss.  God Bless