Not the reason I would have liked to be introducing myself...

[MandysMom]

I am so blessed to have just found this board.  My beautiful, talented and smart daughter Amanda was taken from this world to quickly when the car she was a passenger in had an accident.  Everyone else involved walked away with minor injuries and she was killed instantly.  I have always said "everything happens for a reason" and believed it deeply - but I find myself questioning it and wondering what possible reason there could be.  Mandy had such life, so much to give this world, so much to offer....  I can only hope that someone really needed a fantastic angel and that is why she had to go.  I feel selfish with this hurting, I feel that family and friends are going to get tired of my not being my usual joyous self.

[lostwithouthim]

This was a traumatic life altering event. If the people around you can not understand that, then they aren't very kind and compassionate at all. Just as her coming into your life forever changed your life. Her departure from this life will also.
I know you question and wonder why her life has to be over. That is only natural. But think of all the joy and love she brought to your life and how having her in your life may it better. I can't tell you why she is gone so soon. I can say you were lucky and blessed to have had an angel of your very own on this earth. Even if it was just for a little while.
You are not selfish in hurting. You are a Mother in mourning . As you should be. You grieve for your daughter however long it takes. Grief doesn't end because someone says it is time for it too. If others can't understand that . ... well its not them feeling what you are is it ?

[tsurandy]

I am so sorry.  My heart breaks for you.  It is strange that we are made to feel we need to get back to normal after the loss of someone we loved so much.  How can anyone think we can ever be the same?  I will pray that you find strength and happiness in the memories of your daughter.

[georgiapeaches]

Mandys mom,
I am so sorry for your loss, I have also said "everything happens for a reason" there is no reason for what has happened this year. Dont worry about what anyone thinks, I havent been the same at all. Honestly, I dont know if I will ever be the same, my co-worker said the other day "you used to be so much fun" I couldnt even think of the words to answer her. I'm sure they needed a fantastic angel just as you said. My heart goes out to you, God Bless you.

Georgia.

[Jeanneb]

So glad you found the board and also the child loss board.

I also lost my youngest son at 17 in a car accident.   It was way too short of time here on earth.

This is a long hard journey... put you on top of the list of people to be taken care of.  Grief can affect us in every way of life and also our health.

You certainly aren't selfish and I think family and friends just worry about us and want to make us better.  They just don't understand that no one can fix this... somehow we just learn to move forward one step at a time.

Jeanne
Philip's mom forever