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[missumom4eva]

i lost my mom in january but i think all my freinds think i should b over it now but i am not i dont talk to no one as i only have my nan and my little sister and my 4 year old son and i dont want to worry mom nan as she has been through enough with havin to cope wid my sister and i have noone else to talk to i just miss her so much and i think i shouldnt b feeling like this still 10 months later is it normal to still feel like i do

[kevinjj]

It is totally normal to feel the way you do. You couldn't have loved your mother as much as you did without having strong feelings of loss. We live in a culture that wants everything done fast and essentially regards normal grief as some kind of moral failing, quasi weakness, as if there is something wrong with a person for feeling sad for more than a short while. That's pretty sick in my opinion and people should not buy into that kind of belief. It is also normal  to not want to be hurting inside but the sadness doesn't simply end all of a sudden. There is no time line to grief and you are much healthier and better off to be sad than to pretend you aren't. I am sorry for your loss and all of our losses here.

[meemaw]

My husband has been gone 2 years and 8 months.  I still grieve, I;m sure I will grieve for a long time.  We were married almost 45 years.  People need to stop thinking that you finish grieving in a set time.  Just doesn't happen.  Keep coming here to say what you need to say.  It will help you.     Meemaw