Christmas

[hesseek]

This is my third Christmas after losing my grandma (who I was very close to) and my father (we had a strained relationship at best).  I watch the rest of my family and they seem to be dealing with things.  I, however, can not.  I want to cry all the time, I have no desire to do anything for Christmas and I can't seem to get motivated at work.  The only things keeping me going are my 2 beautiful children.  Will it ever get easier?  At this point, it doesn't seem like it will.

[Trisho]

Dear Hesseek -  I am sorry for the two losses that you have had.  Losses are hard in themselves and each is unique.  I can tell you loved your grandma and that you were close.  I am sure that the loss of your father is difficult as well because of the strained relationship.  It is kind of weird how others seem to deal with grief/loss differently.  At Christmas time we all have our memories that we long to develop more with those who have died and we realize that there will be no more just those from the past.  So I guess we hang on to those and we all have someone who keeps us going.  You have your children - I have mine and we cope.  I'm not sure when or if it ever gets easier.  Warm thoughts and hope your struggles disappear.  trisho

[Johnboy]

Hello hesseek

My name is John

I have lost both my parents last year on december 23rd 2005

the first time i wrote on this site I was crying and looking for answers just like yourself, I might not have found all my answers here but it help paint a clearer picture and that things do get better in time in our own healing and our own way and though its seems so dark a grimm it wil get better, today tommorrow in five years i dont really know but I can say it will. Your children and family will guide you back what you almost call your old life.

Keep your head up my friend

Im here for you

Hope things come around for you soon


Your friend Johnboy