Several Issues

[Nogal38]

To get right to the point, two weeks ago my unemployed husband asked for a divorce.  One week later I lost my job.  Today I have heard that my mother-in-law who has been terminally ill for quite some time has taken a turn for the worse and will probably not make it through the next day.  I am overcome with helplessness.......and angry because I am being left out of this family event.  My husband has left me one voice mail, but otherwise will not answer my calls.  Fortunately I have a brother-in-law who has kept me informed of her situation.  Wow - I do have a lot on my plate.

[Luvinmike]

so very sorry Nogal. This is a hard time and a lot of fear of the unknown. It would be mature for your husband to include you. No offense with next questions, just thoughts -Perhaps marriage counseling? Have you tried to heal this union. Maybe the job loss and his sick Mom have contributed to your loss of loving communication with each other?
There is a lot of pain in all this. someday it will hopefully make sense or at least be more secure in what you need to do. Sorry for the fear with your job and emotional pain you are in. Thinking of you and sending the best of wishes that you keep putting one foot in front of the other. Terri

[laurenE]

Nogal,

Wow!  You have had a triple wammie for sure.  I am so sorry.
  I hope you are reaching out for comfort and support from those around you.  Please take good care of yourself and ask for help.   This is a tough situation and you need all the love and support you can gather around you as you go through this time.

please let us know how you are doing

lauren

[Raquel]

Nogal,

Keep your head up! Maybe your husband is not strong, and he needs you now more than ever.  If he will not return calls you can still leave him messages of encouragement and let him know you care.  Just remember this has nothing to do with you, and the loss of a parent is the most devastating thing.  Reach out to him.

Raquel

[kevinjj]

These are some very heavy burdens falling on you. I am hoping you have friends to talk with about all of this and reach out to your mother in law by phone or visit her if you can before she dies, but keep in mind that is separate from the separation of your husband. In most of our posts, myself included, so many details are missing that it is hard to get a full picture. If you and your separated spouse have not done marriage counseling and if you are wanting to try and salvage the marriage, get word to him telling him just that.