9-3-08 The day my life changes

[MissingMommy9308]

Hi all. I'm not sure how this site works but I was just browsing and this popped up. I hope this helps with my healing process. I am 20 years old and lost my best friend/my homie/my girlfriend/MY MOMMY to breast cancer on September 3, 2008. I can't believe its already the 26th. I kinda wish time would stop. Its moving on too fast without her. I have been doing well with the whole coping thing...I think. I am still in school (I'm a Junior at Howard University). She wouldn't have wanted me to stop going to school. She wanted to see me graduate sooooooOoo bad. Just because she isn't here in the flesh doesn't mean she won't be watching me when I walk across that stage! *sigh* I'm rambling. But I just wanted to introduce myself...HI EVERYBODY 

REMEMBER THAT BREAST CANCER AWARENESS MONTH IS OCTOBER!!!!!

[sonya_lonely]

Dear Dear Dear,
I am so so so sorry for your loss.....you are to a right place over here...everyone is there to listen to you and you can vent out all......just remember everyone here is suffering and you will feel good to share...
I lost my mom dad to an accident in april this year and i still cant believe 5 months have passed...i have a younger brother who was driving while this happend si u can imagine his state of mind and now we two are left together...till date i am not able to believe that we have lost them and now we both are left alone in this world....my parents were not very old,just 55,so it was much before time.....but still we are moving against the wind of grief and managing to breathe....
i really hope things will turn out ...do u have siblings?who else in the family?
i wish you peace ...you are in my thoughts and most welcome to share all...
take care,
prayers,
Sonya

[dragonlady2865]

Hey Sweetie:
   I am so sorry about your loss.  I lost my mom 21 years ago.  She was only 54 and it was sudden.   And just now starting to really deal with it.  You are right your mom would want you to go on.  Do it for her.  And let me share something that might help that I just learned.  You can still talk with your mom every day.  I bought a journal  and every morning I have my coffee and atalk with my mom.  And several times a day if I need to tell her something or to just go for comfort I write it all down. 
   After I have written the date I put the time and then I start with mom, or morning mom.  What ever works for you and if I go back to it in the day then I just write the time and take it from there.  It's like haveing her sit across from me again.  I've even found if it's a hard to write entry where I'm thinking mom I could sure use a hug I can feel her arms around me.   Sweety I hope this helps.  If you want to private message me you can and if there is any way I can hel[p I gladly will.  Just let me know.
   ZFinnalyy let me leave you with some advice someone on here gave me.  Take it one breath at a time n soon you can go one min, one hour one day.  But don't rush it.  You deal with whatever one is easiest for now.  Ok there's my two cents.  Just remember I'm only a message away.  And check out the chat room.  You'll find some great people there. I know I did.  If your in there before me tell them dragonlady said to come talk to the pros.  Take care sweety.

[tsurandy]

I lost my mother in September on the 17th.  It is hard, I am over twice your age, but the pain is just as deep.  When we lose our Mothers we lose a part of ourselves, but what I keep remembering is that she is always in my mind and in my heart, and I know what she wanted for me.  You are right your mother will be watching when you graduate, stay in school!