2 siblings gone in 2 years

[Won_by_One]

I lost my brother, age 47, in Feb '06 and just when I was getting to the point where I could think of my brother and smile, I lost my sister this past March, also age 47. I'm not dealing with it well. I don't look like myself anymore, I've aged at least 10 years, maybe 15, and I don't want to burden family and friends who clearly don't know how to handle anyone else's grief as they're grieving too. When I talk to them they seem to try to change the subject. I respect that as their way of dealing with it. They're hurting too. I don't know what to do with  myself anymore. I miss them so much it hurts.

[kevinjj]

Hi won-by-one, I am so very sorry for you loss of two siblings. I'm grieving the loss of my wife. I have noticed too that families cannot talk much about the deceased other than some passing comments. they seemed locked into grief, just like I am.. I wish I had some words that could ease some of the pain but there are none. A grief group might help, it does me.

[Sad Eyes]

Hello Won - by- One,

First of all I am so sorry that you have lost your brother and your sister.  I can relate to the sorrow that you are feeling.  I lost my sister to cancer at age 42 and my brother was murdred at age 47.  I understand that holding in your sorrow and grief will age a person.  Please find someone that you can relate to and talk to about your grief.  Talking with others (even someone that you don't know) who have lost loved ones really helps.  I struggled with my grief, anger, and sorrow long before I gave in and went to see a counselor.  Seeking out professional help was one of my best steps towards healing. I hope that somewhere here in my ramblings is something that will help you feel better.  Take care and let me know how you are doing.

Sad Eyes