I miss my mom!

[saba]

faye, u dont hav 2 feel guilty abt not missng yor mother if she wasnt wat a Ma shd b then how can u force yourslf 2 miss her. if u plan 2 hav a family/hav 1  then perhaps u cd luv n care for yor kids so mch that u overcome yor feelings 4 yor mother, it does happn sometimes  u kno that children of cold mothers turn out actually 2 b v. good parents n hence overcome the regrt 4 their own unsatis childhood.

[saba]

mimismom, i m v.sorry 4 the loss of yor mother n also yor jobs. i can identify wth u in more ways than 1 as my Ma also lft me in jan this terribl yr n seems i m also on the verge of loosng my job now due 2 great deal of absenteism, m physically sick besides lots of othr issues to deal wth snc she went.evn i constantly pray to God to help me endure momnt  to momnt in this world....

[Baby Girl]

I AM A NEW MEMBER & NOT SURE IF I'M DOING THIS RIGHT. WHEN I SAW & READ YOUR POST 'I MISS MY MOM' I JUST HAD TO RESPOND. PLEASE DO NOT APOLOGIZE BY SAYING YOU'RE BEING NEGATIVE. YOU'RE NOT. I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I TOO WAS FILLED WITH ANGER OVER THE LOSS OF MY MOTHER WHO PASSED 6 YRS. AGO AT THE AGE OF 74 FROM A MASSIVE STROKE. SHE HAD HER STROKE THE DAY OF OUR YOUNGEST DAUGHTER'S WEDDING. MOM LIVED 2 YRS. & 2 MONTHS FOLLOWING IT.  I'M REALLY HAVING A HARD TIME WITH THIS AS I TYPE.  EVEN AFTER ALL THIS TIME I CAN'T LOOK AT MOM'S PICTURE WITHOUT FALLING APART. SHE WAS WONDERFUL. I WAS HER ONLY DAUGHTER. I HAVE/HAD 3 BROTHERS WHO DID NOT VISIT HER AFTER HER STROKE NOR DID THEY ATTEND HER FUNERAL. I PRAY GOD WILL FORGIVE THEM AS I CAN'T.  THE SAD THING IS WE USE TO BE VERY CLOSE. THE BOYS COULD NEVER ACCEPT MOM REMARRYING. HER MARRIAGE TO MY DAD WAS NOT A GOOD ONE BUT HAD 5 WONDERFUL, HAPPY YEARS WITH HER SECOND HUSBAND. HE WAS GREAT. WHEN I SAT THERE AT HER FUNERAL WITHOUT MY BROTHERS I FELT AS IF I WAS GOING TO DIE MYSELF. I NEEDED THEM SO BAD. I REALLY NEED TO GO NOW AS I JUST CAN'T TYPE ANY MORE. THIS IS STILL JUST SO PAINFUL FOR ME. I'M HURT & ANGRY & WOULD GIVE ANYTHING TO HAVE MY MOM HOLD ME IN HER ARMS & SAY IT'S GOING TO BE OK. I DON'T THINK I'LL EVER REALLY BE OK WITH THIS. BLESS YOU.

[inhcwl]

 I am also missing my mom. We were extremely close, best friends. She was only 57 and it happened rather quickly. I had recently moved back close to family and we were looking forward to being able to do more things together. It just didn't turn out like that. I  find myself wanting to  pick up the phone and call her , we talked on the phone atleast an hour a day. I would call her for advice on anything. Now i don't know who I will call when I just want to talk or want advice on something . She was one of the few people I ever trusted in my life. I feel your pain. 

[tsurandy]

I lost my Mom on September 17th, 2008.  I have never experienced such pain.  I am so sorry for everyone who has experienced such heartache.  I barely make it through each day.  People tell me it will get better as time passes, but I don't believe it will ever get better.  I miss her.

[Patti S]

I miss my mom very much as I just lost her on Sept 12 2008.  I would do anything just to feel her touch and to hear her voice again.  She had a Stroke on Aug 21 and  then went to a nursing home and was hositalized on Sept 5 then passed on us Sept 12.  She was 85 and her B-Day is Oct 15th.  When does this pain go away  I hate it sooooo much I just want her back. She was my bestfriend She had me when she was 42. Deer hunting is soon coming and my mom  loved the outdoors so her and I always went up to their cabin  and went hunting so this year will really be hard for me to make that drive up and to go deer hunting with my brother and nephews.I'm so sorry for your lose too.

[moonlight2530]

My Mother was the most loving person you could ever meet and my life will never be the same with out her! I grew up very poor and I can remember my Mother could make something form nothing! For fun we would go on Spookie rides (as she called them) what fun they were. She would say who wants to go for a spookie ride and we all would yell me and off we would go. She would find some old road and shut of the lights on the car and tell spookie stories or sing a Halloween song!!! I loved it. I would love to have a spookie ride with her again or hear her sing my favorite song. I have often thought if only I could hold her hand one more time and tell her how very much I loved her!!! I am heart broken my two children could not know her. What a wonderful women they have missed out on!! I miss her so much!!! It has been six yeard but it feels like yesturday some times.
I love you Mom

[youngmom1]

I am 22, my husband is 26and we have been married for 3 years and have an 11 month old baby boy. On June 11th of this year  (The four year anniversary of my Grandpa, my Dad's father's death), my Mom went in for a full knee replacement,the surgery was a major success and the surgeon was very pleased when my Dad talked to him at the hospital....at 2:30AM on the 12th, the hospital called and told us that my Mom was unresponsive, to make a long story short, after months of investigating we found out that someone hadn't done their job that night and hadn't given my Mom the blood thinner she needed, resulting in her death (She was 48).  I found out about a month after her passing that we are expecting our 2nd child (having conceived about a week before my Mom's death). I am very angry at the hospital and being a new Mom, and seeing how much Love and pride goes into that, gave me a new outlook on my Mom, I feel as though I have been cheated and that I am now missing out on what was turning into an amazing friendship with my Mom.  I think I may still be in shock somewhat. My sister and I started this week going to a griefshare group with my Dad and I think it helps a little.  My husband has never had anyone in his life that was close to him pass away.  Although he is a sweet person, he (unknowingly?) is being insensitive to my pain and I believe he wishes I wouldn't have bad days.  I'm not saying that I sit around and cry all the time, but I can tell that when I do have a rough day, that he is growing impatient with my moods (um....I'm pregnant, already moody! and this, of course, doesn't make me any happier) Does anyone have any ideas of what I can say to him, it seems like when I try to talk to him, he doesn't pay attention! I'm really at my wits end here...Our son is a HUGE BUNDLE OF ENERGY, I still work, am pregnant and grieving all at once! He doesn't understand, and yes I have told him all of this...Please Help!
*Christine*

[MomsLilMiracle]

Hi someone told me of this community today, and my thoughts are with all of you who have lost, i lost my mom 12 years ago next month when i was six and i have never forgotten her, she was told by the doctors that she would never conceive so i used to (and sometime still do) think that it was unfair for her to pass away when she did, although i do understand of some people worse off than myself. since i left home i have felt more alone and upset and just miss her so much, i know i havent got that many memories of her but to me she was an angel really lovin and carin and i need her now more than anything and i feel angry that she got took away from me and my family, i keep havin flashbacks of the night she went to the hospital i was just looking out my window and all i could see was blue flashing lights and my nan and dad talking whilst my mom was being put in the ambulance. she has gone but will never been forgotten and im so glad ive found this community as i cant talk to anyone else about it. i found out a few months ago that she ended up dying of blood poisoning as the doctors couldnt tell that something has ruptured inside, i feel for all of you cuz i know i would do anything to get my mom back and to cuddle her or to jus see her, sorry if i have caused any offence with my post because i kno i was young and that but i still miss her and love her and always will

[David640]

  I can  understand  where your  coming from.  I  lost  my  mom  on  the 20th  of  May;  2008  to  a  stroke. I  think  one  of  the  tough  things  about  the loss  of  either  or  both  parents  is  that  they  have  always been there;  steady  and  sure  constants in  our lives;  like  knowing  the sun was  going to rise in the  east  each  and  every morning; your parents  have  been  there since your very begining. But; life goes  on.  There  has never been  a  human  being  born  in  this world;  who  hasn't  passed  away.  Essentially;  your  looking  at  the  very  same  situation  now  YOUR  parents  had  to  look  at  with  THEIR parents. A  woman  i  work with;  lost  her mom to  a  stroke  about  two  years  ago.  I  was  at  work  when  she  heard  about it; walked up to  me;  gave  me  a  big  hug.  Told  me; ' The  first  few  weeks  are  the  roughest; then i  gaurantee  it will  be  better  as  time  goes on.  And  y'know  what?  She  was  absolutely right.  First  couple of days; i slept about two hours each night.  Tired  as  hell; but  it  was  like i couldn't  turn  off  the inside of my mind. But  sure  enough;  couple  months  down  the road;  the  pain  has easied  tremendously.  I still  think of  my mom; but  i  surely think  i  can  rest  easy;  knowing  she is in  a  much  better  place.

[vimbo76]

i am sorry about your loss and now i can understand where you are all coming from, i live and work in Newzealand and my family live in South Africa. it was on the 18th of October  this year whn i received a a call from my brother telling me that my mother had died. she wasn't sick she just collaped.That was the worst phonecall that i think a person can ever receive. it was the hardest thing that i have ever experinced.if crying only would bring someone back, my mother wolud have done so.All i kept thinking was how i was going to spend 17hours on the plance going home.i made it home and seeing my siblings made me feel a little bit better. she was my bestfriend and my best cheerleader.knowing that i have lost the only person who loved me unconditionally makes it even harder.my younger bro is 13, he was so close to my mum and i dn't even know what to say to him.