Introduction (New Member)-Lost my brother 6/8/08

[kmart11]

I lost my one and only brother, 2-1/2 years my younger, in a freak and unnecessary accident far from home.  I am one his three sisters.  Both parents survive my brother.  My brother was my hero.  At 28 he was the hardest worker and proved he had my Dad's talent to woo even the toughest clients.  He was the best friend to everyone and known around the world for both his hard work & hard play attitude.  He brought a room to life with his very presence.  I knew this well before he died.  He was my son's godfather & godfather to another friend's child.  He protected his three sister's diligently and quietly...until there was a reason to get loud.  He was the athlete a football-addicted mother could only dream of.  His wit had a bite and his hug was so tight.  I love him & miss him every moment. 

I should probably say what I need, huh? I need my brother back.  Can someone tell me how to keep my marriage, my parenting & my relationships with two parents and two sisters who lost the same boy (but a different person to each of us) intact? I feel my anger and sadness (delayed to this fourth week after his death due to the circumstances or his accident) will ruin the goodness I have left in my life.  My brother would be the one to get me through this.  Where is he now?

[lostwithouthim]

My brother was my pillar of strength also. I am sorry you are having to go through this too. My family as a whole fell apart after my brother's death and we have have never fell back in as a family. It seems like he was what was holding us all together.

My brother was very wise. He always knew what to say it didn't matter what the problem was. He always knew what to say. He may not have had the answer to the problem but he knew what to say to make you think.

The world lost someone special when my brother died and sadly most will never know what a truly special person he was.

I am sure you feel the same way. Believe me when I tell you I understand how you feel.

[Kevins Sister]

Kmart11,
First of let me say how very, very sorry I am for you.
I lost my big brother Kev on 05/01/08, 2 months. And I still find it very hard to breathe. I keep wondering the same thing you do. When I wake up every morning and think, I can't believe that my wonderful, caring, kind, handsome, charming, loving brother is not of this world anymore and it feels like I can't breathe sometimes. At one point my sister and I went to a physic to see if we could find out anything we could on how Kev was doing and she said, there is someone who is not here physically but they are with your in sprirt and is surrounding your family in his arms. I thougth it might make me feel better but it really doesn't.  Your brother sounds like a good guy and I am so sorry about your loss.