Loss of Grandparent

[Miss my Nan]

I lost my Nan almost a year now, I miss her so much!!! Does it get easier? Why does it still hurt so much?( My Nan could have answered that and made me feel better!!) We talked on the phone sometimes a few times a day, she was an amazing person! When I am having a problem, just feeling down or had something exciting to share , she was the first person I would call...........sometimes I feel I could just explode because I can't talk to her, I would  visit her at the cemetery every Friday and talk to her but it just made me feel worse. 

[Trisho]

I am sorry for the loss of your Nan.  Sounds like you were really close to her.  People say that grief gets better with time but for myself I am also going on just over a year and so far it hasn't really gotten better.  Some days are worse than others.  When we love so deeply and that person is no
longer with us we yearn to see them, to hear their voice, and to give us the love that they once did.  I've heard that sometimes going to the cemetary often does make things worse.  I don't know for sure because my fiancee was buried many miles away and I have only been able to travel there once which was just recent on the anniversary of his death.  I guess just keep her in your heart and somehow we will all get thru this long hard journey.  Warm thoughts.
Trisho

[barnee442]

It's wonderful to have such a positive grandparent experience.  I was very close to my Granny and had a hard time losing her.
Just try to do whatever does make you feel better.  Since losing my mom, somedays I need to go tho the cemetery and somedays I talk to her in a journal on my PC.  It has helped me alot to be able to say anything I need to in writing and not feel judged by anyone else.  Yes, it is a fine thing for others to say that our loved ones are in a better place; I do believe that, but there's still a huge hole in my heart (and I know yours too).
I'm not convinced that it gets easier, we just learn other ways to cope.  I read Tuesdays With Morrie recently.  A main thought that stuck with me is when Morrie said that "Death ends a life, not a relationship".  It's normal to miss our loved ones.  In January it will be 6 years since I lost my Granny (she was 93) and 18 months since I lost my Mom at age 62 suddenly.  I am not the same person anymore.  I miss them so much.
Please remember, there is no normal time limit to grief.  Go easy on yourself and hold tight to the memories:)
Thinking of you
Julie

[Miss my Nan]

Thanks for your supportive words, I have felt I can't talk about my feelings for a long while now because people say things like she would want you to move on and live your life..........hearing this has made me feel as if it is no longer important that I have lost my Nan.......but it is and hurts like it just happened, sometimes I feel numb. I continue to think about what if I went to the hospital that night before her surgery and been there for her, maybe she wouldn't have died, I was ready to go , it was all planned I would be there at 5am to spend time with her, my Granddad called and said there was a message on the phone and it was confusing, I called and was told she passed away a few minutes ago.........words I wish I had never heard! I am so sad, it is starting to interfere with my daily functioning.
I am sorry for all of your losses and hope to be able to heal or learn to better cope with my feelings, I really need my Nan!!!!!!!!!!!!!   Donna