Things have changed a bit since my last post now what do you all think?

[eric]

Well as I said things have changed a bit since my last post. My GF and I have had time to talk a bit about us and I am trying to respect her and her needing some space. She is trying to respect the fact that I love being with her and the boys. She has shared with me that it is not about us and that her and I are fine and the relationship is great! Her words not mine! She said that her parents are disappointed with the fact that she divorced her ex and they are still VERY good friends w/ him and his parents. And she is trying to figure out how to kind of get the okay to proceed w/ life and spend time with me around her family more. Her father is very old school and is very close to her ex and feels disrespected that I went to one of his grandsons baseball games that he was also at? I SOOOOO look forward to a close relationship like he has with her ex husband I think that is a good thing and I have shared it with my GF. Her father was this way with one of her sisters and her now husband the whole "the guys not good enough for you" but I would think that if his daughter is happy and I treated her right then they would be happy too? She is still wanting some time for herself to sort thru the is this to early for me to be in a relationship, some of her friends are split with feelings about US. They think she may want to take time and go party and fun being SINGLE and the others see that she is truly happy with me and they say go for it if it makes you happy GO FOR IT! I have been talking with my GF sister and she didn't like me or the idea of being with her sister from the beginning and she told me yesterday that she has changed her opinion of me and that I have changed and that I am a good guy and that she wants to see her sister and I work. She did say to make sure that I give my GF( her sister ) the space she is requesting for and I have no problem with that. I trust my GF and the ex BF are just friends and I do see that it is just a struggle that she is so close to a guy friend and a bit of jealousy streak runs through my blood when they are together. I have been praying and asking God to help me with the streak and jealousy thing. The guy is moving back home (12 hours or so away) in two months so that won't be an issue as much then and I am trying to work through my emotions and give him the benefit of the doubt. Well there is my update please give me some responses as far as ways to go about this? We have decided to spend 2 or 3 nights together instead of every night like we were so that she can get things figured out with the to soon issue and she is suppose to talk with her parents and even if they don't see things her way she said she will feel better that she got it off ehr chest and that they will then know how she feels about me. We both love each other and are trying to make this work so any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you to all who resond and may God bless you and yours!

[eric]

Okay I just got done typing a good message to be followed up with a phone call and email from my GF. My EX wife is starting rumors that my GF is cheating on me and that I called her crying and asking for advice on my GF and my relationship??? What the hell this is not right? Now my GF thinks that I am going to my EX and that is not even close to ever happening again. MY GF said that she doesn't want to see me tonight and we had plans to be together tomorrow and she said we can talk about it then? I don't want this to end my current relationship with my GF. What do I do?? Help PLEASE HELP? What do I do?

[grainofsand]

Eric~
From reading this post and the other one you did...let me just say this....
Some people have very volatile lives.  Somehow they attract it...thrive in it, and it seem it is the only way they know how to live....is in chaos.

If you choose to stay with this woman, you will have to accept the big up and down swings.
She isn't in a healthy place, therefore you cant expect her to behave as such.

We cant tell you what to do Eric....that isn't our place to do so.  We can just give you our advice...from years of experience in hopes that will give you some information to work with. 
I am sorry you are having relationship struggles, but sometimes you have to step back in the situation and say .....can I live like this or not.