New and Sad

[MsPen]

Hello,

Sad because boyfriend has pushed me away due to his premonition that in August 2008 he believes he will "pass on".  7 years ago his second wife died of breast cancer, he nursed her at home the whole time, his first wife died of Alzheimers at 35 years of age, he has a 12 year old son from his first wife now with him, he lost his only brother to suicide a year or so before his second wife died.  During his immense grief following the death of his second wife he was outside begging God to help with his pain when he felt immense calmness and the premonition that in August this year he would "pass on" and have no more pain etc.  He believes by ending it with me now it is better to grieve this way then following his death (if it were to happen). I so wish to help, he is very despondent and upset with the pain already caused to me and believes he needs time now to prepare for August, think, reflect on all the wrongs he has done, make arrangements for his son to be looked after etc.  He knows I am here for him if and when he needs me, have said he needs a friend now more than ever - he needs time to sort through this.  Are we talking unresolved grief?  Fear he will lose me too so stop seeing me now?  Confused.  Thanks for listening.  I know my pain is nowhere near everyone elses but I feel my boyfriends grief so very powerfully.

[laurenE]

I am very concerned that he may be preparing for his own suicide .   My other thought is that his depression may be causing delusions.

  Please call his Dr immediately, take him to ER or contact your local mental health facility.   He sounds in need of treatment and possibly medication.

 If he will not go for treatment,  his behaviors and words need to be reported to the local police so that they can get him treatment and save his life.

I wish you the best of luck.